Thanks Mindless,don't think I'm going to get that hardcore!! But I'm always interested innards, so it was fun reading.
If I understand you, I just need a 5V load and that will keep the 12v in line.
The reason I mentioned the hard drives is that that would be the easiest way to create a load, just run the had drives off the secondary psu and problem might be solved, which I already noted wouldn't work with my drives. From crossload tests I've seen, about 3-5 amps is needed.
I mentioned the mother board draw, because it is the only place to get the draw with out adding an outside load. I could wire the 2nd psu in parallel (5v and maybe 3.3v, but I don't know enough to know if that would cause problems.
As you mentioned the resistor is probably the easiest.
Modern Antecs aren't separate like the old ones were. If they were I would use my Seasonic, who is making the current Antecs. Actually a few years ago a review said the SeaSonics were separate, but it isn't mentioned since.Unless you spend top dollar for some decent Antec PSUs